Life Lessons Learned

Feminism.. you are doing it all wrong!

August 7, 2012
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Feminism.. you are doing it all wrong!

I am one confused woman… and mother… and, dare I say it… feminist. And I apologize ahead of time if this post goes a bit all over the place {see statement above} and if I am about three months late on this band wagon! . I have been trying for the past week or so to read Elizabeth Badinter’s book, The Conflict: How Modern Motherhood Undermines the Status of Women. And I just can’t do it anymore. It is hurting my head and my heart and my very soul reading her words. And it is doing so on so many levels. It hurts me because of her blatantly condescending attitude about pretty much everything that I value, hold dear and practice as an attachment parent mother. It hurts me because of her “look how wonderful WE the French women are at everything we do”. From having the highest birth...

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A letter to my daughter.

August 7, 2012
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A letter to my daughter.

My dearest L, We’ve started talking about it. About you growing up and getting to be a big girl now. I see you taking so many steps and leaps into life that only a few short months ago, I know would have been impossible for you to navigate. Today, I dropped you off for your first ever day of summer camp and I was SO worried. I was worried that you would not want to participate. That you would not let me leave you there with your camp leaders for the few hours of fun and learning. But I was wrong. You put that bike helmet on, told your Bike Camp instructor your name and with a big smile and a wave back at me, took off with the rest of the kids. I stuck around for a bit, just to make sure you settled in OK {and to...

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Getting my groove back…

July 25, 2012
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Getting my groove back…

After almost two weeks of being blacklisted by the Googles, and not being able to post anything, I made a decision to switch hosting companies. Good-bye old host, hello BlueHost! Everything seems to be running smoothly and again I have to give props and a big THANK YOU to the awesome Karen Parker, @jkparker for those of you on the TweetyBox, for helping me get everything moved over smoothly and without any major blips throughout the process. Now, I have to regain the love and confidence of the Google gods and of you my dear readers! So this is a short post to let you know that I just got back yesterday from my first time ever on Vancouver Island. I have downloaded the almost 700 pictures from our trip and will write my “what I did on my summer vacation” post very, very soon! Seriously, I am pretty...

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The Virgin Garden

July 13, 2012
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The Virgin Garden

This week I decided it was time to go all the way. I mean, I have waited 40 years, I weighed all the pros and cons and I was pretty sure I was mentally ready to handle the consequences. So I had a long shower, cleaned myself up real nice, put on a pretty pink dress and off I went to get my flower plucked. The setting was perfect. A beautiful, tranquil place, filled with lots of nice sounds and smells. All of it intended to relax me and help put me in the mood. I had a drink and I washed my face with a cool cloth. I took off my clothes and folded them in a neat pile on the chair and laid down on the bed. I was ready. And then I heard these ominous words… “Let’s see what we are dealing with here.” And the...

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Why 50 Shades is good for you.

June 10, 2012
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Why 50 Shades is good for you.

I caved. BIG TIME. I had heard about it a few months ago, but didn’t really buy into the hype. I mean, it’s not like I was a stranger to erotic fiction. I was reading The Story of O and Ann Rice’s (writing as Ann Rampling) Sleeping Beauty Trilogy way before women all over North America started googling BDSM and realizing that a full bladder equals a bloody amazing orgasm! So, YES. I have now read all three of the Shades of Grey books and I am not ashamed to say that I thoroughly devoured and enjoyed all of them. Today I read a post on the Yummy Mummy Club site by Kat Armstrong, their new Celebritease writer in which she ponders this “mommy porn” phenomenon… “But there’s something about this book…. that keeps drawing women in, but I completely don’t get it. I don’t understand how poorly written erotic...

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stealth attack

June 8, 2012
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It hit without warning. A small dot on my chest that felt a little tight. And then it got bigger. And bigger. And then I started to breathe a little faster. And shorter. I managed to get the kids dressed and fed before it hit me full force. But come it did… And then BAM! There I was, hunched over my desk, sobbing and hyperventilating uncontrollably… And having the first FULL ON anxiety attack I have had in over 15 years. My poor little girl just looked at me and said “Mommy, what is wrong with you?” I didn’t have an answer for her. I somehow managed to pull myself together long enough to get the kids to school. I did not talk to anyone for fear that the flood gates would not hold if I so much as opened my mouth. I lost it again when I got...

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Why oh Why do we do what we do…

March 13, 2012
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Why oh Why do we do what we do…

This weekend I realized something. I am a purist. Kinda… Let me explain. I attended my third blogging conference this weekend. It was the inaugural Blogwest 2012, the brainchild of my friend Felicia Dewar and a much-needed convergence of bloggers, sponsors, and experts in the social media and blogosphere world for Western Canada. In September of 2011 Felicia and I both attended the ShesConnected conference in Toronto and it was very clear then that western Canadian bloggers as a whole were both missing and also not being targeted by brands and sponsors. I am positive that it was after this conference that Felicia’s wheels started to turn and that weekend, the beginnings of what would become BlogWest sprouted in her head! At the time, I was quite excited about being invited to ShesConnected. I truly believed that connecting with brands and sponsors was what I wanted and needed to...

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om…..

February 7, 2012
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Today I am running through all the phrases and sayings and meditations I can to keep my calm. “Everything happens for a reason.” “Problems are not stops signs, they are guideposts.” Robert Schuller “The greater the difficulty, the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests.”  Epictetus “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming….” Dory It is kind of working. Although I am pretty sure I freaked my kids out real good when I broke down and started sobbing after I picked them up (25 minutes late) from school, got another phone call about the Natural Urban Home and YET another issue that is not going as planned that I have to deal with and after I yelled at them to stop the FUCKING WHINING ALREADY!! (Sad to say–that is a direct quote.) I really just have to calm down, take some deep breaths...

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a few of my “least” favourite things

January 23, 2012
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A few things have me all riled up today. ~ When I am really, really wrong. Like having no problem swearing in front of my kids, saying that I don’t care if they swear as long as it is in context and then having them swear totally IN CONTEXTand realizing that I was WAY OFF BASE with this one. (Oops!) ~ Bad editing. Whether it be in a movie, a TV Show (Hello Once Upon a Time, I am talking to you), or a blog post. Especially a blog post. Spell Check people, know it, use it, love it! And please read and re-read your posts before you hit publish. ~ People trying to pass off someone else’s work, research or pictures as their own. Show some respect and give credit where it is due. (PS. Not only is this not very nice, it is often illegal! ~ Laundry. (Not...

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I like to do things in threes… can you tell?

January 19, 2012
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I like to do things in threes… can you tell?

Day 16. Morning. …when it is -40 degrees Celcius, you need a hot tea latte and bunny mittens to start  your day. Day 17. Water. …I need a lot of it! Day 18. Something I bought. ..and might regret very soon. A white jacket for my 3 year old. #JANphotoaday Challenge. This is actually harder than you would think.

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